LMAO...my mom use to say that all the time to the three of us girls. And now i understand. ha ha. though i have 2 boys. (Logan AND Jason) Its not that you get angry or upset...its just that they can be all up in your space 24/7! lol Now don't get me wrong, i do think i have a pretty good life and lifestyle, so I'm not trying to complain about all that. Its just sometimes i struggle with stuff and get frustrated with it all. Being a SAHM (stay at home mom)you are constantly here! your job is the housework, kids, husband, finances,meals, errands, bills,ect. it can get over whelming at times. Jason at least gets to go to work everyday and get away from it all for a few hours. and even gone for months at a time. Being a SAHM you can end up doing everything (almost everything) by yourself. it is a job that CANNOT be belittled at all!!! i dont know how my girlfriends do it that have more than one child in the home. I hope to get alot done and learn alot once logan starts school!
A constant struggle for me is learning how to discipline Logan. I have no idea what I'm doing. and I'm afraid that I'm going to be doing it all wrong. I myself was hardly ever spanked, never in my life grounded, got smacked a few times and sent to my room alot! Jason had it a lil more tough than i did on his side of the tracks. So we do struggle as parents and as a couple on how we are suppose to do things. I do believe in spanking. We count to 3 n all that jazz....i love when shrek says "you're going the right way for a smacked bottom!" I use timeout alot. i don't feel it really does any good. And i have started to take things away from Logan...like toys and TV privileges in his room.
Oh before i go on, lemme say Logan is really good. i can take him anywhere and not really worry about him being a hooligan. I take him to my meetings and he sits quietly through them with colors n such. He is so patient when we take our 12 hour trips back and forth to Iowa and Texas. But there are things ya know id like to tune up and well lets face it he is a boy.
He has started doing this thing lately if you are giving him direct order to do something. ex:Logan, go play in your room. He makes a funny face and starts rolling his eyes. So today when this happened i spanked. outta reflex and shock that my 4 yr old was making such a face at me! he cried and was sent to his room. The more i thought about it i was pissed. not at Logan so much as myself. I didn't like spanking him and Jason didn't agree with it. after a lil bit Logan came out and said sorry for making a face and he was ready to be a good boy. i hugged him and reminded him mommy doesn't like mean faces and he went and played. but seriously it took me a couple hours to get over me a spanking him and Logan only like 15 min!
Ugh. so how do ya know whats right? what wont traumatize your child? what will help them to learn how to respect and obey their parents? I try really hard to have a great relationship with my son, the best that i can. I do fear that he will act out like alot of teenagers these days do. I think my parents did a great job raising me. The discipline in my house was right for me. lol i am very sensitive and they could give me a mean look n id be crying, but besides that all through my teens i thought that it was all right (well...maybe if ya woulda asked me then i would have changed a few things I'm sure...ha ha but what kid wouldn't!) its funny that last night i went to barnes and noble. i was reading up on a book called everything you need to know on raising boys. lol then today flipping through the channels wouldnt ya know dr phil was talking about corrective parenting. im like geesh enough with the signs! i know i need to take a step back, get down on my knees and pray. Pray for guidence, patience, and kind words. Logan the other day said "what the hell!?!" and im thinkin it could have been way worse with all the army slang that goes through my house. But thats not all to blame I too tend to slip em out often. so i guess when i pray ill need to add. "God please keep one hand on my shoulder, and the other hand over my mouth!" :)
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